How do you like your pain?

There's the pain of being in a car wreck. You don't ask for it. It’s a harsh pain.

There's the pain of having a spinal tap. You don't want it but if you need it, you get it. Call it bitter pain.

And there's the pain of punishing your body for 26.2 miles. It’s the cumulative pain of finishing the run not only for yourself but for someone you care deeply about, and when you collapse into someone's arms at the finish line – well yeah, it's pain, but it's euphoric, and you don't seem to mind a bit. In fact, you may want some more.

That’s the pain I chose four months ago.

I signed up to run the Valley of the Sun marathon in honor of my friend Christine, who has been a big part of my life for over sixteen years. Her bravery in the face of leukemia during her bone marrow transplant and the horrors that come with it would move any spineless and creaky kneed writer to run 26.2 miles for her. She has been my first, second, third and fourth wind.

Whenever I wanted to sleep in and forget about my morning miles, I thought about every trip she had to make to the Emergency Room. When I wanted to pull up lame because of an achy knee or ankle, I thought about the physical trauma she went through after her bone marrow transplant. When I thought that 26.2 sounded maybe a little too ambitious, I remembered how Chris would have to measure her blood counts daily.

26.2? That’s nothing.

But nothing’s now here. It's go time, and I'm in Phoenix.

It is the morning of the race, and I am at mile zero.

I boarded the bus at the Mesa Sheridan hotel at 4:15 A.M. with the rest of my Team-in-Training mates. The sky was dark. The landscape barren. The coyotes sleeping. My teammates ready but barely awakened.

The school bus tumbled towards the starting line through the desert landscape, but if I were looking out the window of a house we passed by, I would think we were being lead to our execution.

But they wouldn’t know the half of it. We’re on our way to salvation.

I remember it being a little chilly before the rise of the sun in Phoenix. And I remember seeing Orion in the sky, the same Orion I see in San Francisco, the same Orion that my friends see back in New York. And then I remember suddenly being a little warmer.

I promised myself before the race that I would take it easy, just concentrate on finishing, take one step at a time, slow down if my knees begin to howl, visualize the finish line. But there I stood, twenty minutes before the starting gun, and I'm now back in high school moments before we play St. Peter's, getting angry, hating my opponent, clenching my jaw, tightening my fists, embracing the urge to do more and go further.

But I remembered my plan. And I swore to keep to it, each step micromanaged.

I began by running with my friend Michelle for the first mile, taking it slow, keeping in mind how my coach in college would tell us to run our first mile faster, so when you slow down, you'll still keep a good pace. Well, I surmised at 6 AM, if I run slower, I'll fall back to an even slower pace. We ran together. I kept my discipline. I was a snail in runner’s clothing.

Soon the sun rose and the cactus flared and the clouds that were never there disappeared and the people cheered. The runners passed and were passed. Cadets handed out water. With each mile I conquered, I drew strength from everyone, these perfect strangers who woke up early on their Sunday mornings to perfectly cheer on another perfect stranger punishing himself. Indeed, perfect strangers they perfectly were.

I’m fast forwarding ten miles. My left foot, which mysteriously began to hurt last Tuesday for no reason other than it could, began to feel as if someone were screwing a Phillips Head right into my ankle. And with each step, it egged on for more. I began reasoning with it. Bribing it. But never relenting to it. I didn't fly to Phoenix to walk, so I bit my lip and moved my ass and my foot begrudgingly followed. Soon, my right knee began to hurt, but in tandem, they both played off each other well. They were fighting for my attention, but I was ignoring them. And when you ignore something, it goes away.

Well, in theory. Not in practice.

As my mileage rose, so did the temperature. As my steps slowed, so did my will power. But then I would see an honoree on the sidelines, cheering me on, and I would think of my honoree, Christine, and now she’s just given me my seventh wind. And ninth.

At mile thirteen, I knew water breaks would be a mile apart. And with the 85 degree heat without a breeze crucifying me, I turned this into thirteen one-mile races, with each water break a finish line complete with water for my thirst, my head, my neck and my body. And then, I would begin anew.

Surprisingly, I didn't feel the shock of pain that you supposedly feel around mile 22. Maybe it's psychosomatic; maybe because mile 22 was just another one-miler in my head. Maybe it's because all the pain accumulated and my adrenaline drowned it out. Maybe it’s because the realization of running on a bum knee and foot for 16 miles of agony didn’t occur to me until I started typing this.

I do know now that my times were way slower for the final six miles. I didn't feel that was so, but clocks don't lie. Then again, most clocks do melt in the heat, and so did I. I forgot to bring my watch, and nobody had an official time, so I didn't know how long or how slow I was going, but that was probably for the better.

Christine and my fifteenth wind and I’m almost there.

Mile 26, the final one, was a trial of each step screaming, "Where the hell is the finish line?" I spent all my excess energy speeding up, gambling that I'd just get there a little bit quicker.

The last quarter mile was paraded on a high school track. My friend Leslie ran with me when she saw me enter. Thank you, Leslie. And then I saw Christine's aunt Leona on the sidelines, urging me forward, just 30 more yards. Thank you, Leona.

As I crossed the finish line, with my neon yellow numbers above me, validating me, I remembered the one last thing I needed to do.

Fast forward twenty-seven painful steps ahead and there I was, collapsing into Aunt Leona’s arms, crying my heart out, sobbing, summoning any last reserve of water to leave through my eyes.

>Crying over the relief and the euphoria of doing this for Christine. For someone who deserves all the little angels with their little miracles. For all my friends and family who have braved past struggles during the past two years that were infinitely much harsher than what I just went though.

And for all the leukemia battlers on the sidelines, defeating the heat and their treatments to urge this perfect stranger on. For my teammates with their personal motivations and honorees. For myself, after two knee reconstructions and a lifetime of nagging hurts.

But none of these hurts were nagging. Pain had nothing to do with it.

It's two days later, and my left foot is getting its revenge. My right hamstring is as tight as a pipeline. My shoulderblades hurt, and they didn't do any of the running.

But they remind me of everything, the best and worst 4:55:04 of my life.

For everyone who supported me - monetarily, emotionally, physically or by just being there - thank you. I owe you everything.

on the way to the race with Leslie

me early on, before the pain

Mesa, Arizona

I think this is me after the big hill on mile 19

The 2004 Valley of the Sun marathon finishers

me singing "Friends in Low Places" at the Victory Party

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The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society

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